1)About FREE COUNSELLING.

Whatever your question, let's hear it. What is bothering you? Stress burnout, Communication snafus, Parenting in the office, Office romance, Getting ahead, Management issues, Change & prospects, Self upgrade etc ,etc , etc.

 

For example, I have observed that there are at least five distinct levels in human interactions; be it professional or personal. All these levels have very separate styles of behavior codes, language abilities, dress codes, philosophies and attitudes. Aspiring professionals who are aiming to rise and change levels or wish to interact with people of levels different from their own, need to understand these factors and change their disposition accordingly to be accepted otherwise they will miss opportunities and never be equal to the peer group. In today's environment where we are interacting with people from different cultures, this subject has taken on a very important facet.

If you have not taken this factor into consideration for your plans of your advancement or even business operation, then you will face critical hurdles to reach your goals. To be brutally honest, you may miss out totally.

The problem is that this is always a little personal and it is not easy to find guidelines as to how to go about this change. You are welcome to write to me and discuss your apprehensions and clear your doubts which I shall attempt to explain as sincerely as I can or at least give my personal views.

Please feel free to write to me on this address:

thisbusinessofliving@yahoo.com

2) BOOK:

Since the last few years I have been writting short comments on various topics from the point of view of the psycho-spiritual approach to managing and living.  A  selected bunch of these write-ups is now offered in book form titled Cleverness vs Intelligence

The subjects are not new but there is a sting in the telling as they are all based on personal experiences with an eye on the future. It is in essence my life's learning in a nutshell.

 

Something about my self:

Languages:    English, French and Hindi with a smattering of Bengali and Tamil.

 

Educated in the Sri Aurobindo Ashram at Pondicherry.( Old French Colony) Medium of instruction – French and English

 

Age 50+ yrs. Vegetarian, Strict nonsmoker

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Highly traveled both in India and Abroad.

 

Active in , Import/Export/Representation of Companies from Europe and Marketing Consultancy, Counseling. Product design and Developement. Teaching FRENCH & English.

 

A serious practising student of Sri Aurobindo and The Dalai Lama.

I have had the pleasure of being associated and working with International firms and professionals from all over the globe at the senior-most levels.

Offer Counseling and Therapy to Disturbed, Stressed students. Parenting.

 

Courses in Creative Writing and Thinking and Oil Painting.

 

Serious Student of Numerology and Holistic medicine

 

Published author. Writing regularly on topics of general interest, management, health and  features.

 

Interior designer qualified from New York and specializing in Rock gardens.

 

Hobbies:           Reading, Painting in Oil(landscapes), Photography, Numerology, Classical Music.

 

 

My attitude to life and helping others is clearly enunciated by the preface of my book which I give below:

 

PREFACE

 

Lately, now that I am on the doorstep to the end of my innings, one thought keeps on crossing my mind.  When my time comes what will I be taking along with me and what shall I be leaving behind. Some of us I know for sure have had a better than most life. Certain opportunities that can be called special have come our way and we have special reasons to rejoice for it has brought not only happy experiences but also wisdom and the knowledge of life that is not given to everybody.

 

To all this, unfortunately, there is a rider. The more we grow in our understanding of this universe and the people on this earth, the dourer we become. The world is filled with creatures of all hues and most of the shades are definitely not pleasant at all. Along with hope and affection there is also selfishness and treachery. Let us take the universe as it is. We have no argument on that for the simple reason that we soon realize that there is very little that we can do about it. If we can make the most of our own lives, we have done our bit. We intend to go within and create a barrier against the world.

 

This matter of doing our bit is what is bothering me. I have learnt much only because some kind teachers went out of their way to take me under their wing. I cannot say that I imbibed all that they could have given and were ready to give but yet they made my learning easier and speedier. Today I live in the conviction that I have something special and hopefully I am doing well in applying all that I have learnt in my life.

 

This is the crux of the matter. If all these teachers had not come forth to help me on the way, how would have I become what I am today? I know the world is happy with itself and does not take kindly to interference but I have also seen that every single day and moment, opportunities present themselves when we can also assist by imparting a little of our experience. My observation is that all of us who have learnt from this world and gained from the universe’s handouts and kindness must do so but we do not.

 

We lock our wisdom within ourselves and sadly let it go up in smoke when our bones are being reduced to ashes. I think and advocate that we should be ever ready to waste a little of our time with deserving instances and even people if and when we feel that a little effort from us will go a long way in establishing a more balanced and positive environment. Let us take every opportunity to be the teacher and spreader of good feelings and thoughts. Let us keep our doors open to every person and instance that comes to us in askance and needs us as a teacher or friend. If we are afraid of being involved then it is a mistake.       

 

My grouse is against all those who lock themselves up in anger, arrogance and impatience and silence. If we have not passed on what all we have learnt, we have not lived well at all!  

 

My private quote: "We are so busy being clever that we have no time to be intelligent."

 

Some of The contents page of the book reads like this:    

 

 

1.      24 HOURS ARE NOT ENOUGH

6.       DE-STRESSING THRU PAINTING

7.      If you don’t mind

8.       Does the genius have a face

9.      The case for Taciturnity

10.  Can we really help?

11.  Shut em up proper

12.  Opt for change

13.  Ridicule is a weapon

14.  NO! With love.

15.  THE FUTILITY OF IT ALL

16.  Conditioned And Stamped

17.  Right to remain unborn

19.  Familiarity Breeds contempt.

21. QUIETEN THE DIN IN YOUR HEAD

27.  Out of the time frame

28.  THE REVENGE OF THE VILLAGES

29.  What is bothering you

31.  Saying thine part

32.  DELIBERATELY RUDE

35.   TOMMOROW NEVER COMES

37.   UNHAPPY, REALLY?

38.  With Honest Purpose

39.  THE WORLD MATTERS NOT

41.   The Illusion of Honesty

42.  GIVE THEM ROPE

44.  ACQUIRED RIGHTS

45.  WHY DON’T WE EVER LEARN

46. Show some courage

47.  REMOVING OR PROMOTING(poverty)

48.  SNUFFING THEM OUT SOFTLY

49.  When did you last do something for the first time?

55 The language conundrum

56 THE CASE FOR MORE HOLIDAYS

59 The Illusion of Virtue

60 Open-Door Policy with a but

61 Self-Sabotage

62 Beethoven’s Pastoral

63 Show of Anger

65 Self as bench mark

66 Education and real life

69 The Government as Whipping Post

71 How to live badly

72 Let us be nicer

73 Buying Peace thru arguments

74 Why a child?

75 Why make the child pay for it?

79 I did tell you

80 Where is the inclination?

 

 

 

Would you like to buy the book? 

Title Cleverness vs Intelligence.

ISBN 1434841944, EAN13- 9781434841940

CD is available for Rs 120 through A1books.co.in.

Outside India the book is available as paperback on Amazon.com : US$22.

 

Some of the comments I have received on these write-ups are given here:

 

james&martha philbeck" <jphilbeck@earthlink.net>  To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

Subject: Re: Familiarity breeds contempt

Date: Mon, 25 Jun 2007 21:56:09 -0400

    I do agree that you can pick your friends, but not your family.  I could never depend on my family. That is what has shaped my character and made me the independent person that I am today.  Martha

 

 

"Aditya Vajpai" <AdityaVajpai@airtelbroadband.in>  To: "'Pradeep Maheshwari'" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

Subject: RE: Familiarity breeds contempt

Date: Thu, 28 Jun 2007 00:00:02 +0530

    Really apt. It is a hard fact of life and  I have experienced the same, within my family as well. I have also seen this happening with soldiers in particulars. They would take loans and all sorts of privileges to help their family members while in service, only to be discarded like an expendable item when they go back home, totally broke. I had therefore advised all my troops, including the civilian friends I have today while working in the civil life, that they must keep their pot of gold intact with them and use it at an appropriate time. This pot of gold could be anything, finances, contacts, business secrets, and all such things which one needs to survive in this world. To expect anything beyond a reasonable familiarity would be foolhardy.

 

In my family line, I would probably make only only one exception, my first cousin, who still behaves like a father figure to me, and I feel like reciprocating appropriately. No jealousies, no make believe, and open help whenever needed/required. Least of all, no contempt. Probably an exception of the remotest kind.

 

 

 

"mary verghese" <marypraxy@yahoo.com>  subject: Re: [Trainers Forum] Fwd: Being rude

To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

    Dear Sir.

              Very nice piece.I had been wondering where did all those politeness learnt from convent schools disappearing?Importance of being polite is vanishing.what brings human beings together is relationship...will it survive if politeness is replaced by rudeness and selfishness?

I am a senior manager in a Fitness centre.

Regards

Mary

 

 

 

"Krish" <jckrish@yahoo.com> Subject: Rude

To: s164gk1@yahoo.com

    Dear Pradeep Maheswari,

I am moved by the article. It is said, "In a consumer society passion for compassion will be missing." How true it is. Youe article has reflected it. I liked it.

With wishes,

  

The more you celebrate your life, the more there is to celebrate.

 

R.Krishnamurthi

Soft Skills Trainer

Asst Professor-HRM

Jansons School of Business

Karumathampatti,Coimbatore 641 659Mobile: 9894535213

 

"arti bhatia" <bhatiaarti@hotmail.com>  To: s164gk1@yahoo.com

Subject: RE: [Trainers Forum] Fwd: Being rude

Date: Mon, 09 Jul 2007 07:23:10 +0000

    excellent article. i hate most of the stuff circulated on our forum.but ur "rude" is a classic.....

 

 

luv/regards Arti Pankaj Chawla

Mobile no: 09820675606

 

"Ry Bard" <bookman_dj@yahoo.com>  ubject: Re: [TrainersNetwork-OMI] Random thoughts

To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

    Hi Pradeep,

 

I think all your articles reflect your brillant and thoughtful thought processes.

 

Can I request you to join CiteHR (at www.citehr.com) and post your articles there? 

 

There are many many young HR professionals who are not entirely clued in about regular worklife, let alone HR, and I think they will really benefit from your articles. I know I do.

 

I am not affiliated with citehr in any way, except as a member (since a month).

 

Regards

 

Ryan

 

 

 

"Shyamola Khanna" <shyamola@yahoo.com>  ubject: Re: [TrainersNetwork-OMI] terrifying cancer

To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

    Well said Pradeep. And when one is diagnosed with cancer, the first thought is fear and then  come the tears! Whereas if one was to accept things as just an aberration and that there is hope  one can meke make the changes in a positive manner! A positive frame of mind works wonders> I have this lovely niece of mine , a qualified doctor who is married to another doctor.She was diagnosed with breat cancer nearly 7 years ago. She and her husband have worked very hard to keep a balance. They have regulated their hours. She goes to work regularly, but keeps a very balanced schedule. The couple go the Boddha Vihar and participate in chanting . This has helped them  with their positivity.

IF the cancer had not been there,  the couple would have probably been working on how to make more money, more degrees, more learning, more status....more more and more...if not this then that...

Cancer has brought in a serenity because they know they have to take one day at a time and enjoy the little gifts life gives them

shyamola

 

 

 

"kshitija koppal" <kkoppal@gmail.com>  To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

Subject: Re: [Trainers Forum] Pleasutre is mine

    remarkable article and i truly appreciate the wisdom imparted here.

 

just yesterday i was t a school reunion with my husband and daughter and we got complimented for how well behaved my daughter was as compared to the other kids. she is 2 1/2 and very playful and inquisitive. all through the 3 /4 hr dinner she was eating well talking to people and when she did not get attention amused herself by watching others. i got asked by my friends as to how i managed to get her so well behaved.

 

actually i don't know. i have just given her enough attention and attention whenver she demanded it from day one. no questions asked were unanswered, if questions were difficult i honestly said that we could find out the answer together since i didn't know myself. books were made available plenty. anytime she misbehaved i IGNORED it. its really tough to do that but i worked hard at it. anything good was APPRECIATED (even if it was a simple thing like drinking milk by herself or telling me she has to use the loo) because it was a big thing for her, simple for me at this age.

this principle of ignoring bad behaviou (or redirecting /diverting attention) and praising wanted behaviour needs loads of patience and consistancy but works wonders, not just with kids but also with adolescents and adults. i greatly recomend this method for all.

 

just thought i'll share my two bits.

 

love always,

kshitija.

 

 

  "Bjorn Martinoff" <bjornmartinoff@yahoo.de>  Subject: RE: [TrainersNetwork-OMI] Pleasutre is mine

Date: Sun, 20 May 2007 16:56:51 +0800

    Hi Pradeep

  

Thanks for your thoughts. I have a little girl myself. She is 4months old, and just one smile of hers will melt my heart.

 

I know I’ll be easily manipulated by her once she’s a bit older.

 

Have you seen the movie ‘The Secret’? It’s about the law of attraction.

 

It says basically that we are like magnets and we attract anything we focus on.

 

If we complain about the bills we’ll get more. If we complain about something else we’ll get more of that.

  

So I think it’s best to focus on what we want to have happen instead of what we don’t want to happen.

 

 For example if we tell our child to not be hitting another child or to not be loud or to not be rude, than we’ll get more hitting, loudness and rudeness. Because that’s all the child ( and the universe) hears.

 

 Focus on behaviors that will work as a win-win for all involved. Like courage, love, compassion, gentleness, consideration.

 

Focus on what is desirable vs. focusing on what’s to be avoided.

 

 You can get the movie at many international airports, at amazon.com, or at www.thesecret.tv

  

My two cents worth…

 

 

God bless you

 

Bjorn

 

 

 

 

Tue, 15 May 2007 21:46:22 -0700 (PDT)

From:  "Ry Bard" <bookman_dj@yahoo.com> Subject: Not enough

To: "Pradeep Maheshwari" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

    Thanks Pradeep,

 

This is the best article in favour of Time Management which I have come across... also the most sensible.

 

Regards

 

Ryan

 

REF: The Pleasure is Mine

 

Well spoken. you have worded it very well. I like the picture that you

paint with your words. Jim and I always do the good guy, bad guy thing. There are things that I let them get away with that he won't and vice versa.  I do lots ot things with them that he don't, but he is more prone to give them a piece of candy or let them stay up later.  Martha

 

Excellent write-up. In fact you would be surprised this works well even with grown ups ! I mean with officials in the govt as well ! I have personally tried this technique and had to team with another person to act the part played by your daughter's mother. He would tackle the official criticising and finding faults, and I would follow up playing your part by going along with him, supporting him and generally making him feel like a good friend of mine. Eventaully we managed to even get our project worth 55 crores sanctioned by him !

 

Keep it up - I know it works.

 

Aditya

 

 

Dearest Pradeep,

I just read your thoughts regarding "education"-ARUNA is in a very lucky situation having a father like you!!

As to my understanding parents should support "their" children, instead of forming them as they wish. Being a part of a "new" visitor on planet earth one has to realize that being a father/mother is one of the highest challenges. All man made institutions (religions/gov./etc.) are constantly forming their people. Therefore one should try to be a real and hoest "supervisor" for "our" kids, assisting them in their development, fulfilling their elementary needs, accompanying them wisely on their way into the society they were born in. This planet would be a better place, if there wasn't all of that pressure, reglementations, etc. "Our" children should have the chance to blossom to their highest potentional. Being, as a father/mother, a real friend might be the only wise way to activate all of the resources and abilities including the knowledge, they bring along from former lifes.

The Europeans do have a tendency to believe that, as long as they try to control someone, all is going to the better. May I say- nonsense- to this way of attitude. As history told us, once someone controls the others everything develops directly into  misery. One of the reasons for a negative drive of masses might be the circumstance that creativity and self-confidence dies in the moment of high pressure. The media support gov. by spreading junk over the masses, just to avoid rising consciouness.

"Our" kids should learn all the tricks of survival, allowing them to be a nomad in the widest sense. As life is like the way over the bridge, leading from one shore to the other, "our" children should get the tools of survival.

Pradeep, nothing new for you, but I liked to let you know that I really enjoyed reading your thoughts regarding "education".

May I wish you and your beloved ones the very best.

Yours

Amir 

 

 

"ravinder singh bhardwaj" <singhravinder25@rediffmail.com>  To: s164gk1@yahoo.com

Subject: Re: Re: [HRInnovators] Self as benchmark.

    Dear Mahesh,

 

Thanx alot. This is really an interesting thought which gives an opportunity to have a look on our own self so as to correct our actions. I hope i have taken in right spirits. Please give your feedback.

 

thanx once again and always be there for such thoughts to share.

 

bye

 

ravinder singh

asstt. manager-hr

sahara india media,

Noida/Delhi

 

 

On Tue, 29 Aug 2006 suresh srinivasan wrote :

>I wish I could , but your mail itself has the answers to my first line.I was only outlining what u have said by means of yur personal/as well as professional experiences.Just think-you took responsibility for your own actions because of no fear in your own personal area of ur life,whereas others would have feared to tread..............get the drift

>

>  Regards

>

>  Suresh

 

>  People do not want to take responsibility of their own actions because even before they can handle the outcome of their decision they are scared.

>

>  Look around you & you will find numerous cases like this in the corporate world also.

>

>  Keepv the thought process on.

>

>  Regards

>

>  Suresh Srin ivasan

 

 

How did you conclude that I was writting about my frustrations? Can't I be writting as an objective observer?

 

Sorry again, faulty thinking !!!  You could be doing it for either or any other reason as well.

Vijay Swaminadhan <vijayswaminadhan@gmail.com> wrote:

 

……………………………………………………………………………..

 

 

 

 

"madhukar kaushik" <kaushikmd@yahoo.com> 

Subject: Re: [TrainersNetwork-OMI] Tongue is a Weapon of Hurt !!

To: "PKMahesh" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>, trainersnetwork-omi@yahoogroups.com

   

Dear Mahesh,

 

That is a very interesting analysis from you.

 

Quote of Mark Twain is a million dollar statement.

Even I have practiced this dictum.

 

During my student life, I had a classmate who always used to say," We should always seek the company of those who are better than us.......those from whom we can always learn."

 

Regards,

 

Madhukar Kaushik

 

 

From:  "Kamalini Natesan" <kamrajamch@yahoo.co.uk> 

Subject: Re: Contradicting lovingly

To: "PKMahesh" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

   

That was absolutely lovely, however ironic that may sound given the content of the said article. Will share with Raja and other friends who i can see nodding acquiescence or whatever it may be that they are nodding for. I see myself, they will see themselves too and we, raja and i are trying very hard not to be too hard on our kids, and it ain't easy. We do have easy flowing conversations and a fair exchange of ideas, but , it ain't easy. It was very enlightening and a harsh reminder to not become our parents...in that very sense. Thanks.

 

Reena

 

 

 

From: "Deepa Menon" <drdeepa_m@hotmail.com> 

Subject: Contradicting lovingly

Date: Fri, 04 Aug 2006 15:49:31 +0000

   

 

 

  An honest article Mahesh. I enjoyed reading it. We can only learn and unlearn from our parent's generation; as they did from  the generation before them. Their intention was always good but when I see things happening to my generation-- failed marriage,losing a kid ,  family presssures... each life will be unpredictable .

 

Their generation was much more predictable in a routine manner,than ours is presently.

 

 Now when I face the next generation- I have to go by hindsight; to let them  be and give them  broad guidelines-a tricky factor indeed.   regards--- dr deepa menon

    

"Rajiv Kapoor" raj_a2in@yahoo.co.in

Fri, 4 Aug 2006 08:16:40 +0530

Subject: Re: Contradicting lovingly

    > 

Date:

You have had experienced the very truth and gave your words accurately.A lot of appreciations from me.

 Truth is universal.

Successes,

Rajiv

 

"PKMahesh" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

From: "Horst Jurock" <dj@jurock.ws

Subject: Re: Contradicting Lovingly

   

I was brought up this way as well. All I ever heard was, "You can not do this", or, "Our family has never done it this way". I never got a proper answer to my "Why?" It took me many years to overcome those pressed upon me limitations. We have been raising four children (young adults now) and from the very beginning when they asked to do something we encouraged them by saying "If YOU believe you can do it you can". We also found it important that a child from a certain age finds his/her own answers and after that we discussed the findings. I have to say that we are very blessed with children that are able to think for themselves. Of course there will always be conflicts between old/young, experience versus inexperience, but that is a good thing, because it keeps us older ones thinking too. I think that a lot of parents belive they own their children, if they start to understand that the time granted with their child is precious, very short and is a gift, a lot of pain can be avoided.

 

Horst

 

 

 

Ref: Beetthoven’s Pastoral

 

neha krishna <nehakris1981@yahoo.com> wrote:

You have written this ariticle very well.

 

I hope the message reaches everyone in the same string.

 cheers,

Neha

 

 

 

  "Nikita Hattangady" <nikitavh@yahoo.com>  

 

Date: Thu, 3 Aug 2006 00:56:46 -0700 (PDT)

Subject: Re:Contradicting Lovingly

  

This was a very beautiful story. As a child I often felt your sentiments. As a parent, I repeat history. Thank you for opening my eyes today. I will try and use the word "no" less with my precious little ones.

 

Thanks from me and from my kids :)

 

Nikita

 

"Tarannum Siddiqui" <tarannum.siddiqui@gmail.com>  Add to Address Book  Add Mobile Alert

 

Date: Thu, 3 Aug 2006 16:57:07 +0530

Subject: Re: Contradicting Lovingly

   

How true what i would like to add here is that not only our parental conditioning but also when at a tender age we go to school, our teachers from whom all children are seeking to be liked & given attention also play a pivotal part...alas thats how things move in this world creating barriers...to add to it all once we grow older we also behave in similar patterns & what one ideally needs to realize is break away from it and build new .....thanks Tarannum

 

 

 

 

 

"Miss~Marie" <mariemach3@yahoo.ca>  View Contact Details   Add Mobile Alert

Subject: Show of anger

To: "PKMahesh" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

   

Wow--that was fantastic my friend. Thanks for sending.

I sure learned alot--lessons in life management for sure!!

Marie

 

From:

"Maureen Sharib" <Maureen@techtrak.com>   

To:

s164gk1@yahoo.com

Subject:

Re: Show of anger

Date:

Mon, 24 Jul 2006 09:00:20 -0400

 

Is it okay to reprint your excellent anger article? 

 

 

Also, being an avid Western Classical and Beethoven enthusiast, there was nothing I could add to your well-thought out conclusions on the Pastoral Symphony.

 

Best regards,

 

Vijay Swaminadhan

 

"George HJ" <hjg@vsnl.net>  


Sat, 22 Jul 2006 20:21:11 -0000

[HRInnovators] Re: Beeothven's Pastoral

 

In addition to Beethoven's Pastoral Symphony one should also listen
to the 9th Symphony to fully understand the powers of consonance and
dissonance, this is a superb article.

George

 

 

From: "Aditya Vajpai" <AdityaVajpai@airtelbroadband.in>  

To: "'PKMahesh'" <s164gk1@yahoo.com>

Subject: RE: Beethoven's Pastoral

Date: Sat, 22 Jul 2006 22:10:50 +0530

   

Very true. Sadly it is also true that if one listens to the other's side, without crticising for the heck of it, he is considered as a dope. However, I still let others think so - because, it really does not make any difference in the end to my health. I speak when others are inclined to listen to me.

 

Aditya

Fri, 21 Jul 2006 08:19:30 -0700

"PKMahesh" s164gk1@yahoo.com

"Horst Jurock" <dj@jurock.ws>   

Re: Beethoven's Pastoral

 

I totally agree. To many words, too little understanding. In the end what really counts are those conversations you have with friends and family about the 'little' things in live, which in reality are the 'big' things. I personally try to avoid the news for they are always negative, yet the observation of my surroundings tells me that live is good.
What is important? The way my wife looks at me with her special smile. Talk and laughter with my children. The content 'sigh' of my dogs after a long walk and good food. Friends and neighbours, our small world. We moved away from those who think they know everything better and do not even want to listen.
In my observation only 2% of the people really think, 3% think they think but don't and the other 95% would rather die then think. It is displayed in the new words they come up with. Good arguments get shot down with slogans and "Political Correctness" is the big fad. Your last sentence sums it up nicely: "Is it useful, Is there a need for it here, ...."
I say, why bother with those who can not be talked to?

Horst

 


re: Beethoven's Pastoral

Viviana Field

 

Hi Pradeep.
I love your writing and I love how it made a full cycle -- beginning with Beethoven's Pastoral and simpler times and ending with the basic need of returning to it. Thanks for that. I agree it is easy to stumble upon rude people everywhere. I think there's been a steady decline of manners, uneducated young moms, no dads and no manners are on the rise. Believe it or not, good manners is actually a learned behavior. For us on this network it may seem "common sense" but even that is a learned behavior. Alot of the youth are left to raise themselves and they have to survive a hard life with hard people and violence around them. Obviously not evertyone has a bad start, but many do. I always try to meet rudeness as if I don't even recognize it, as if it doesn't phase me. With the rough youth I work with the ignoring bad behavior rather than confront it works for me, however others have success pointing it out and making it a big deal. One favorite teacher uses disrespect and indifference for lessons on character and life choices. As for depression, yes, it is so common, commercials plugging drugs to make poeple feel more themselves, etc, that the public may be de-senstitized about it (and many ohter community flaws). Your friend needs help, however. Depression is real and not always in the mind. I believe most mental, physical and spiritual health problems can be managed with proper nutrition and exercise. It's obviously not that simple. In today's society, at least in my area, it is a real challenge to be able to have a nutritious and nurturing diet. Processed foods, pesticides and fertilizers have robbed Americans of their right to health. I can't speak for any other countries. Anyway, thanks again for your message. Good luck with your friend. Perhaps Beethoven can help lift your friend back into balance along with nutritious protein drinks!




To: Existential_Strategy@yahoogroups.com

From: "Dick Richardson" <rwr@psychognosis.net> 

 

Subject: Re: [Existential_Strategy] Beeothven's Pastoral

   

 

Seems to me mate that YOUR problem is that you are more intelligent (and wiser) than the folk with whom you choose mix :- )))) Try other places.

 

And as for fine music then I found that music has the power to stimulate the mind, elevate the soul, inspire the spirit, and expand consciousness.  So, pretty profound stuff to be sure. Try Vaughan Williams Fantasia on a Theme of Thomas Tallis.

 

As for the juveniles, bums, cretins, egocentric gits, etc, well, they will grow up in due course. Life has that effect - eventually :- ))))))))))))))  Experience is the food of life.

 

Dick.

Date:

Fri, 21 Jul 2006 07:51:23 +0100 (BST)

From:

 "Kamalini Natesan" <kamrajamch@yahoo.co.uk>    

Subject:

Re: well written but a bit on the cynical side

To:

"PKMahesh" s164gk1@yahoo.com

 

Dear Pradeep,

Sorry i was not able to respond to your earlier mail....i understand what you must have gone through, the reasons thereof are still hidden. I wish you all the best. YOu've said a lot without saying it all.

 

Your article is well-written albeit a bit caustic. You could've put in some humour to lighten the issue. THe crux of your theme is very true and effectively you are trying to reach a wonderful point that words are meaningless at the end of the day if :

 

A/ You are not ready to receive them;

B/ Too much of anything is a bad thing;C/ Words are a wonderful means as long as it is limited and used for good purposes:

D/ Try and be more tactful and discreet

 

Sure life has changed, for better or worse. There is a price to be paid for everything. If there is less silence, we chose it that way. Those who long for more silence, retreat and make different choices. My sister went away to a farm in Mysore. I have come away to Hyderabad and live in a quiet area. Each one to his own. Beethovan's Patoral is a great piece of work, and even those who love noise can enjoy it. Loneliness too is a curse.

As for the comment your article sollicited from this other person, i must admit i am in agreement with him. I don't think he has modified your statement, he is just making a point and you must have the largesse to accept it too. If you wish for others to listen to  you, then you must also the others to make their own voice heard. On the contrary, i think it is YOU who is being rather dismissive of his thoughts. At no point do i get the feeling that he was trying to appear kinder or virtuous, that is your own idea clearly. Now i am critiquing your article, and what i am about to say has no bearing on your character whatsoever, it's just what i feel through my experience of life, so be careful before you jump to conclusions about what i may be "trying to appear" to you. YOu asked for an honest opinion, and here i am giving it to you, taking time out from my own work to communicate with you. 

Good people abound and it is upto you to draw them to you. Rudeness apart, i must say that i see a lot more people who are helpful and nice rather than rude and arrogant. My view of the world is pretty much opposed to the article you've written. It's a viewpoint, no harm but a little too hard on the world. You have to balance your opinions, otherwise you tend to sound very opinionated and arrogant. Please don't paste it to SAICE, you'll get comments like mine. There is as much good in the world as there is evil. On reading your article one would believe that you've only had the most terrible experiences with people. Maybe you should tone yourself down a bit. It's nice to be honest, but sometimes i feel you'vre overly critical. Attention! (in French, not English).

On the other hand, your usage of the language is great, and you have put your thoughts across very well.

 

Hope you enjoyed my critique/comments, i was just being open and frank. You asked for it.

Affectionately

Reena (84)

 

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From: "poetwith_nowords" <seawine_poet@sbcglobal.net> Date: Sun, 16 Jul 2006 15:49:41 -0000

Subject: [Existential_Strategy] rudeness

   

The author of rude behavior makes some interesting observations about persons he comes in contact with, and, perhaps, there may be a trend toward abrupt behavior and social isolation.

However, I think it cynical to believe this marks every corner of the world. Friendly persons

and places still exist, but it's up to you to not only find them, but to see folks for who they

are. Aiming your car at someone is not the way to find the better side of one, no matter how

attractive it seems.

 

In fact, if I were to make my own observation of human behavior, it would be that too many

persons try to "teach others a lesson," especially on the road. Like PK did with the scooter

boys. Or like the driver who cuts you off on the road because you drive too slow for his

taste, or the one who drives 55 in the fast lane next to the truck going 54.

Try leaving the urban area for while. Visit a farming community. Their starved for human

contact. Live in the foothills where neighbors are wide apart.

 

And where was this and when was it when everyone behaved so remarkably well? Who

aspired to etiquette? Were they trying to be like the Brits who owned an empire? Who

slapped the faces of servants? Slapped elegantly. Nice people.

 

"Your message must be approved by the group owner before being sent to the group."

Maybe censorship is the answer. What do you think?

 

 

 

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From:  "Oscar Murphy Int'l" <lucydoss@yahoo.com.sg>  Add to Address Book  Add Mobile Alert 

Date: Tue, 6 Jun 2006 15:11:25 +0800 (CST)

Subject: Re: [TrainersNetwork-OMI] In a lighter vein [ Mahesh ]

   

 

Dear Pradeep,

 

Thank you for this short and sweet write-up.

 

Though it is in lighter vein, it has a very useful and pertinent message inside.

 

Money seems to be taking overriding place in our minds and social interactions. Somewhere in the process, values and ethics of life are getting pushed to back burner.

 

Looking forward to more of such interesting posts from you.

 

Regards,

 

Lucy Doss